Some Dad's Just Don't Understand

I want to first start this blog off by stating, this is in no way meant to down or bash men!! This is more for understanding, and more of a question that tons of us women would like answered! So men, the question to you is, what is your role in your children's lives after the relationship ends? What makes you still a full-time dad vs part time dad vs dead beat?? How do you continue to make it a full-time role? I feel co-parenting is very important but it's becomes hard for most once the relationship ends. Especially when you see the man slowly dwindle into being comfortable not being that presence. I ask these questions because let's be honest, more than not the relationship with the kids becomes part time or lots of times non-existent when you are not in the household. You no longer have the responsibilities that the mother still has to take on when you leave. She is now responsible for the roof over your child's head, food on the table, lights on, cooking, bathing, cleaning, and overall daily raising and upbringing of the child. Most child support isn't even enough to put snacks in the cabinet, and that's even if she gets any. She is the one that has to call off for doctor's appointments, school closings, and if the child is sick. For the dad everything becomes an option. I see more and more of step-dads coming in to help and balance the household and becoming the full-time male figure in a child's life more than the biological father. How can this be changed or should it change? We all saw the emotional story of Tammy's daughter when her biological father didn't show up, and the sad part is so many mother's and children can relate to this!!! So fellas I'd like to know what role you play? And do you have any compassion for the role women play as mother's once you're gone? Trust me it's not easy, so you may be wondering why she is quick to be mean or mad. She has tons of reason. What can us women do to help you still be a significant presence? We're listening!